What is your biggest fear

[iAmPL'sSnob]

May it be an object, person, emotion, scene.. any.. and what's the reason you come to fear it..

[engr.ddo36]

hmm, i'll start.

there's only one right now that i fear.

Failing.

Failing and not be able to do anything to learn from it and move on in life.

that's what i fear.

[iAmPL'sSnob]

Alright.. anyone want to help engr. overcome his fear? in a way you think could help him..

[btw if you want to follow this post with your own fear too.. just do so]

[eicah]

hhhm.. =)

engr:: hhhmm... in my opinion, it depends kasi on your perspective on the situation... if you have a positive outlook in life, no matter how many times you fall,. you will eventually be able to stand up again, and move on in life.. xempwe with the right support system also.. kasi it's pretty hard to stand up alone.. sabi nga nila "no man is an island".. kelangan mo din ng support... you maybe depressed for sometime.. that's normal.. pero your support system will always be there for you to tell you that it's gonna be ok.. and plus your positive attitude.. sure ako. makakabangon ka ulit sa pagkahulog mo.. =)

my fears::
mababaw::
ipis!! hehe as in.. maarte na kung sa maarte.. dunno why.. pero im terrified of roaches talga.. when i see one bongga talga tili ko.. tas di ko lam pero umaakyat pa ako ng upuan.. di ko rin mapatay ang ipis gamit ng sleepers.. ahy ewan ko ba.

malalaim::
hhhmm.. im scared to be alone.. as in i don't want to be alone throughout my life...fave ko na line ng song "i don't want to walk this earth if im gonna do it solo..." <solo by iyaz> i mean let's face it.. we are not getting any younger.. and soon enough my circle of friends will marry their partners soon.. and we'll be living our own lives na.. ayun .. and im scared that i will be left alone.. ayun..

[iAmPL'sSnob]

engr.ddo36:

Failure should not be feared itself..
its the 'not moving on' you should be concerned of..

failure offers us something that makes you even anticipate of failing. let me quote something i read that i think would let you get a better grasp of what im trying to point out..

"When you come to see you are not as wise today as you thought you were yesterday, you are wiser today."

--make sense? well that's pretty much everything.

as to not moving on, this is one of the things people have trouble in dealing with. we can't just simply drop everything. when in fact its already dead. good or bad just drop it.. you enjoyed it.. you learned from it.. you suffered from it--DROP IT.

it wouldn't do you any good now. how about just making things work now instead of mesmerizing from the past? would it be much better having to feel it from the now instead of remembering what it felt then?

you saying

Failing and not be able to do anything to learn from it and move on in life.

--you see, its not failure you fear.. its you not being able to do anything about it. that really is the root of your fear and the anchor that keeps you from moving on.

so how about it engr.?

--O--

eicah:

first of all.. IPIS?! ahaha kkaaliw nmn. buti honest ka.

cgrdo kng hnd m alm kng bkt k nttkot s ipis? bka alm m.. pro dmo ln alm n alm m.. ehe..

let us put it this way.. may it be the idea of the roach crawling on your skin, you having to feel its hairy legs.. and how uncomfortable this would make you feel.. or having to know how much germs it carries that might be transmitted to you.. o bka kgtin ka.. o kadiri ln tlg..

to be honest idk how to deal with this kind of things.. all i know is.. you just come to fear it because you/someone created a certain profile of the roach that stimulated you to come to fear a roach.

--d k b ngttaka.. my mga taong d tkot s ipis tos mrn dng mga takot 2ld m?

dpnde tlg yn kng pno gngwn ng mga tao ng profile mga bagay2, lugar, o kht tao dn mismo kya nila ito knkatakutan.

--ayan ln mssbe ko s ipis mo.. hehe

Alone?

kng yn knktakutan m.. kht kelan hindi k mggng masaya.
bkt? kc lhat nkdepende s ibang tao.

tgnn m kng pno k ngbgy ng advice.. hnd b nginvolve k ng ibang tao?
-- support system

we are not getting any younger.. and soon enough my circle of friends will marry their partners soon.. and we'll be living our own lives na..

--totoo.. hnd ba't andyn n mga bgy n klngn m pgisipan pgdtng s knkatakutan m. wlng permanente s mundo.. lhat umaalis. mging magulang p mismo o kptid, kaibigan, asawa, anak.

s totoo ln hnd ko alm kng pnong pggng alone ang tntukoy m.. alone n wlng mggng asawa b? kng gnyn rn ln.. hnd k mggng masaya.. dhl kng iddpnde m s pgkkroon ng asawa/bf kasiyahan m.. hnd m yn mkkha. dhl binulag m n srli m s mga bagay n pd mng ikasaya n wlng naiinvolve n commitment.

kng tntkoy m nmn ang pggng alone dhl s kwln ng support system.. pgisipan mng mbte yn. dhl cmla n idikit m srli m s support system n yn. hnd m mkkayanan gmlw mgisa. kkailanganin at kkailanganin mng my taong asa likod mo n mgssbe.. kaya mo yn.. ok ln yn.. dhl kng wla mga yn.. lht mggng imposible syo.

nkkta m b kng pno m knkulong srli m s pgddepende s iba. hnd m ln alm kng anong freedom naiddulot ng pggng alone. pg nrmdmn m yn.. bka batukan m p srli mo at sbhn.. 'bkt ako nttkot mgng mgisa?'

kng nrmdmn m n yn.. balitaan mko.. jamming tyo..

[engr.ddo36]

yup i understood you guys. thanks for the thoughts. much appreciated.
anyway, to make myself clearer.
It's not really the "failing" that i'm afraid of, it's the phrase after the word "failing" that i'm afraid of.

Failing and not be able to do anything to learn from it and move on in life.

I've failed countless times. And i'm not afraid for it to happen again in my life.

The kind of failing that i am afraid of, is the failure without a bright light that i can squeeze off of it. Got it?

It's like a problem without any tiny chance of solution.

That kind of failure.

This is exactly what i'm afraid of. :)

--you see, its not failure you fear.. its you not being able to do anything about it. that really is the root of your fear and the anchor that keeps you from moving on.

Kinda' complicated but i hope you understood me. hehehe. sorry.

[eicah]

iamPL'ssnob:: hhhmmm.. nakakatuwa po kayo magadvice ohh soo wise.. hihihi
hhmmm.. yhep i admit im kindda dependent talga.. almost everybody around me treats me like a princess up to now... at the age of 22.. im still with my parents.. my friends treat me like their little sister.. they almost always do everything to prevent me from falling, from being hurt, from everything that may hurt me.. im super selfish pa.. hehe sa super selfish ko.. i want to be the first one to die before my parents do.. hehehe parang kasi hindi ko kakayanin pag dumating na yung time that God will take them away from me.. so ayun gusto ko mas mauna ako.. hehe oha.. hehe selfish bratt ko noh?

ahm i am not afraid that i wouldn't be able to find a lifelong partner...hehehe i have been single for the longest time na.. hehe lam niyo ba at this age im still not allowed to have a boyfriend.. and sa sobrang love ko parents ko i really follow their rules.. although i broke them na a few times.. ok din lang naman sakin.. i love bein' single.

siguro nga im super scared to fly solo pa.. hehe maybe because i have been trapped in my own paradise for soo long.. and now im just to scared to face reality

thanksie sooo muchies po!!! natuwa talaga ako

[arn0Ld]

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